For starters, we have to commend you for giving this question some thought. It shows that you care about making a good impression on a date that already bodes well for you in the dating scene.
As enjoyable as dating can be, you may already know that it could quickly turn sour in what seems to be a blink of an eye. Much like a game of bingo, except that it could go both ways, there are certain things that you can do or observe that will move you to say “bingo!” to yourself, which in the context of a date could either mean that your efforts have paid off or that there is no point in arranging a second date because it just doesn’t look promising.
With the seemingly unending and unwritten rules of dating, the best way to prepare for each date is to consider and look at each aspect of dating one piece at a time. For now, we go over the events that lead up to your very first contact with a date; that crucial moment in between deciding on the time and place to meet, and finally getting to speak to each other in person for the very first time.
You may have already decided on what to wear, planned out how to accomplish your workload at the office ahead of time, so you don’t get stuck in traffic. You may have saved some back-up questions in case of much-dreaded awkward silences and even mentally practiced the best way of saying hello and introducing yourself. You could already visualize your every step as you approach your date, yet there seems to be something amiss with this mental image. You now find yourself pondering, “should I be carrying a bouquet for our first date?“
Trust us when we say that the answer isn’t as straightforward as you would think at first. Generally speaking, you definitely should not be giving your date a bouquet the first time you meet; and this is for a good reason, as will be detailed below. As with most rules, however, there are certain exceptions to this strictly no-bouquets-on-the-first-date principle.
What It Means When You Give a Bouquet on Your First Date
Generally speaking, bouquets are not appropriate on first dates, and here are a couple of reasons why:
Bouquets Mean That You’re Serious – Too Serious, That Is
A bouquet is often associated with passion, commitment, and to some extent, longevity. It’s typical fare for anniversaries, Valentine’s day tokens, or even random sweet gestures when you have already been dating for quite some time. If you fall within any of these categories, then, by all means, splurge on a bouquet or send bouquets online. But for a first date – maybe not so much. Not at all. Walking in to greet your date for the very first time with a big bouquet of, say, red roses in hand might just freak your date out. Showing that you’re too serious this early in the relationship might come across as premature and is ultimately off-putting to the person you’re seeing.
Bouquets Don’t Go With the Mood of a First Date
The reason why you should not present yourself as someone who is too severe or too intent on the potential of a budding relationship on the very first date is that the first date is the time to take it easy. You are essentially testing the waters and trying to get a feel if you are compatible with your date or not. You are only getting to know each other; you are talking about your respective backgrounds or sharing your hobbies and interests.
Concerning what bouquets represent – passion, commitment, and longevity, bouquets just do not go with the mood of a first date because it is simply too soon at this stage. Take it easy and get to know each other. Do not freak your date out by bringing something along that represents commitment when you are practically still strangers at this point.
Flowers on a First Date Are Still a Sweet Gesture
While it is now safe to say with certainty that bouquets on a first date are not appropriate, the same does not hold true for flowers in general. When done mindfully and right, giving flowers on a first date can be a sweet gesture and can even give you plus points on a first date. So if you intend to make a sweet gesture or a good impression on your first date through the language of flowers, there are specific ways to do so; just keep in mind that it should never involve a big bouquet.
The Right Way to Give Flowers on a First Date
Walking in to greet your date the very first time you meet with flowers in hand can put a smile on your date’s face. This has to be done right, though, because as it goes with just about anything when it comes to dating, nothing is as straightforward as it seems. A great rule of thumb is that where a big bouquet gets you a creeped-out or shy smile, a simple and curated selection of flowers, on the other hand, can put a sincere smile on your date’s face. It could even help your date feel at ease with you because of the sweet and often unexpected gesture. When deciding on the best way to give flowers to your date, you need to consider the message you will be sent with the flowers you will be giving and what these flowers symbolize. Consulting a florist on the different meanings of flowers is a great idea, but for starters, the following are our top choices on the best flowers to give on a first date.
These brightly colored round flowers come in various shades and evoke a sense of cheerfulness and joy. Giving some gerbera daisies on a first date can put you in a positive light with your date. Remember not to go overboard because as hard as it can be to still go wrong with gerbera daisies, arranging them in an over-the-top bouquet can sometimes send the wrong message. Opt for a simple assortment of maybe five stalks of gerbera daisies in different colors.
These exotic blooms are elegant and refined. Orchids are perfect for first dates that you have arranged in fine dining restaurants, for instance or other such settings that are just as formal.
Yes, you may still give roses on a first date but do lead with caution. Since roses have come to be associated with declarations of love, it is easy to go overboard with it on a first date. When done right, however, it can express that fine line of “I want to get to know you better, and I see some glimmer of potential from this date” entirely without freaking anyone out with premature thoughts of commitment. To achieve this, try to select three stalks of roses instead of a full-blown bouquet. Consider other colors as well, apart from the classic red.”
Ultimately, your first date is the time to take it easy, to figure each other out, and just to have fun as you try to get to know each other. In the language of flowers, a bouquet might be too premature for what you are trying to develop at this stage. That said, our different options for the more appropriate flowers to give will help you make the sweetest gesture on your first date.